Sadly, there are lots of people who assume they’ve discovered their soulmate or twin flame, however they actually obtained caught up in a relationship with a narcissist. The narcissist soulmate connection is a faux one, however the trauma bond could make it really feel very actual. Happily, there are just a few methods to inform whether or not this can be a twin flame or soulmate connection or a relationship with a narcissist (or one other emotionally abusive character). On this video, we discover 5 surefire indicators that your soulmate can be a narcissist.
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The Narcissist Soulmate Connection Fantasy: https://youtu.be/6ZX3ZnZY8vY
Soul Contracts with a Narcissist: https://youtu.be/K6jkmxxLrVs
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Thank you so much for this. It’s been hard for me to admit or call her my ex a narcissist, but every single one of these things was true and really related to my experience. Thank you so much for this content 🖤🙏
I had no idea what a twin flame was until I got love bombed and she introduced the twin flame idea, made me feel like it was meant to be… and you can guess the rest. 🙁
If you have to ‘hide’ parts of yourself, ‘dumb’ yourself down, or otherwise dim your light around your ‘soulmate’, then it is clearly not emotionally safe for you to be with this person
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Those fairy tales we were told as children of the Prince Charming coming on his white horse to rescue us has been so damaging and has us projecting a fantasy onto these men. Our generation must not continue that programming on into future generations. It's so dark and toxic.
You described my relationship to a tee. Scary and sad.
My husband and I have been married for 31 years. My narcissistic husband has no friends.
My narcissistic husband is so incredibly lazy (that is his #1 narc desire, to never lift a finger) that he can not and will not do the work necessary to have and maintain any friendship. The work involved would be too much work, too much of an annoyance for him. That would interfere with HIS precious time.
My husband is definitely a narcissist but he is so different from what I hear in videos.
He's not on social media. We're in our 60's. Are you kidding? He's not going to waste his time on "IDIOTS". He doesn't have any friends, so he doesn't have any 'flying monkeys' or do the 'triangulation' thing. That would require talking to "a bunch of idiots". He doesn't cheat or flirt, never has.
He's just an obnoxious 4 year old JERK.
There is no such thing as a soul mate or a twin flame. Grow up
Thank you so much for this video. I'm going through this and watch many on this subject but nothing beats this. Watch and learn because she's so right!
Good info! Makes sense
I love your delivery. Thanks. So goooood!!!!!
The trouble for me is that the first covert narcissist I met was my mother…that set the stage I think. Not a victim just saying that the context
In summary: Being blindsided out of the blue expected to hide your relationship with a former partner or with a former confidant that you are trying to catch up with after lots of distance happened between you and them along with their immediate family members happens far more often to women because there is still a double standard out there being applied to women when it comes to being judged for adultery. Like agreeing with the narcissist that a woman must have been only frigid when wanting to leave the marriage and then after her former husband has a falling out with his next flame then being encouraged by more than one person to reconcile and of course we all know what will happen next if you fall for that kind of peer pressure. The narcissist will be expecting you to do more chasing than he does whenever you are not in the same room with him and the rest of the time if he ever takes you out in public at all he will be introducing you as only his friend or gasp – His aunt. I like to call it the girl expected to be in the cake without pay syndrome. [I suspect that women from minorities experience that sort of thing more than the average woman does] What I do not understand at all is how anyone can idealize men like that as only being a normal man only a bit more oriented to romance than usual than the average man while they are at the same time running down to anyone who will listen sometimes in the worst case scenario about all of the underage teenage girls who have been often seen hanging on his arms as only his 'employees'.
Hi Christina – this is scarily accurate – I escaped this thank God – but still shaken
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I've hidden parts of my personality away from my husband for years. We first got together when we were 17, so it's been 22 years together total. My personality has always been kinda goofy/dorky. I have a huge imagination, and I'm prone to daydreaming/fantasizing.
In the past when I'd tell him about some strange or off the wall thought I had he'd tell me I'm stupid, or flat out tell me me to shut up with a contemptuous tone of voice, like I'm the worst person for saying such a thing. At other times he'd tell me I'm being childish. That my off the wall thoughts are stuff kids and teenagers think about.
I've hidden that part of me for so long that I don't even think about stuff like that much anymore. Now my thoughts are mostly full of anxiety, depression, and self doubt. I feel like a total shell of who I used to be, and the division of my past self and my current self is so great it feels like the one in the past is a completely different individual, never part of me at all.
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Mine doesn't want a label, it's been 5 yrs ,…. every time I try to leave or do leave , he guilts me , says he lonely or has no 1 , some times even throws around the word relationship
Lol watching this made me realize that I'm very bad narcissistic supply 🤣 he tried to get me to think like what you're saying and I'd say no. I didn't even enjoy that people didn't "understand" our connection. I always admitted that I didn't get it. I didn't do damage control 😂 he wanted me to though. I wonder why I'm so stubborn even in a trauma bond I'm like no
8:46 says it all
I always felt mine was the “male version” of myself. Then found a replacement behind my back, I caught him and then there was the discard. This person was NOT who I thought they were. At all. He even looked different physically in his face. It was so strange it was like looking at a complete stranger.
I learned a lot from my experience. With my ex. It showed me a lot of stuff that I really didn’t heal from. Deep down I knew that I wouldn’t marry her. It was extremely triggering, the whole relationship. That’s why I’m in therapy right now and trying to heal and let go. I’m still trying to let go of my ex. I really thought I healed from stuff until I dated her. Everything was triggering and I couldn’t be myself. I’m very spiritual and I couldn’t openly discuss my beliefs without sounding crazy. That’s who I am now. I don’t want to hide that. I know not everyone understands it. I believe I’ll find someone who is also spiritual.
Soulmate? Mirror more likely.
Wow. This video is a major eye opener !
Omgggggg 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ the accuracy !!!
Soulmates and twinflames are real…doesn’t mean you have to stay with them
YES! The "Narcissistic Dance" misunderstood for a twin flame or soul mate! YES I AM AWARE. RUN FAST FROM THAT!
Tell me about he hated and I was punished for setting boundaries by telling other woman we were living together
The trauma bond was created by him dating a boarder line personality type woman. Who bullied me and stalked me and him for months!
Two years with one narcissist fake soul mate
Thank you so much for calling out the pattern in Twin Flame communities to normalize some really toxic crap. I read some of these posts where people excuse their supposed Twin Flame's abhorrent behavior and it's really tough to buy after a while. I agree with you completely–the elements of a Twin Flame energy acting as a mirror for you can be there, but if the relationship has all the signs you just listed (and it certainly did for me), why justify staying or hoping it works out? There MUST be better out there.
So true.. it took me two decades to figure him out, but I‘m moving in two weeks. Counting the days and looking forward to leave this energy sucker behind. And good luck to the woman whom he cheated with- she’s getting exactly what she deserves.
Facts! I recall the narc sharing a twin flame article indicating that we were twin flames, comes to find out his main supply sent it to him and to show his love he forwards it to me. I LOL because I knew he wasn't right.
you and dr. ramani have truly made such a grueling and painful process of grief so much less lonely and confusing for me. that is a gift i could never repay. thank you, and i wish you a peaceful new year. 🖤
I understand what you are saying about that trauma bond and how it works and how they do what they do to manipulate you but isn't it possible that certain personalities are the same as yours? And you are both cut from the same cloth? I understand you'd never know if you're with a narcissist but surely because there are most different people out there you date who you feel are alright but every once in a while you date someone or get into a friendship with someone who is the spit of your personality.
It doesn't happen very often but when it does you feel this amazing connection that you have found someone from your brain wave and cut from the same cloth without any manipulation…
It has happened to me. I've never dated someone the same as me but I've found my spit when I decided to rejoin slimming World the one time she invited me to her house and everything we'd smoke together she had a dog, and she was very much into doing healing work for herself as well as I was. I showed her my books I had and it was a beautiful friendship. She was a Mother and she'd also adopted her self a son and unfortunately she didn't take calls off anyone for a very long time because she fell into a depression and we lost touch. I wanted to be there for her so it upset me I couldn't. Eventually I was told she was back on her feet and working. I pushed for that contact for a little bit and got nothing but when I was on my honey moon she messaged back and Id forgotten about her, she wasn't as much on my mind and she sent me a long message that was kind but how she felt and I accepted her answer. She was saying how she wasn't perfect and admitted some stuff to me about herself but I went away thinking she really was perfect because she could say that about herself. She was truly authentic and I missed her. In my own way I loved her and for many reasons such as how she didn't go on and on at her daughter to do as she was told but that her daughter got her because they could just sit and talk about anything and that level of closeness it made me realise she was truly special. The fact she adopted herself a son who she knew had deep rooted problems and she was there for him it screamed out to me just how very caring and loving she was and he couldn't stop saying very nice things about her. Things you'd only say if you lived with her day in and out and I got on well with him. I know I'm going on here but I want to say it is possible without any manipulation
Thank you for creating this channel, you've helped me get through a rough time in my life, this world needs more people like you.
How do these people become like this? It is so sad.
Wow, so much truth.
Everything, everything, makes sense, every step, retrospective, and the next thing to expect.
This is a real "weapon", for healing.
Thank you,
My mom was a narcissist and she taught me well how to be a great narcissist. After a personal tragedy, I shoved my way through 6 years of therapy and found out what a douchebag I was. It took years for me to fix myself, and then I ended up marrying a narcissist that is almost exactly like my mother. I mean, wow! It has taken me 7 years to figure out what has been happening, and I'm like, wait what just happened?
Considering that I used to be the user, I would have thought that I could have picked up on the signs. 7 years?!? How in the heck did I turn into the codependent? Was I being the narcissist?
I don't know, I thank you for the videos, maybe I'm not crazy after all.
💯 Yes, yes, yes! 🙏
I had an experience a few years ago. I learned afterwards about this twin flame idea and it had similarities. I remember I was very happy and looking back I see no red flags. They suddenly were gone. As I look back I wonder if I shared things that caused them to run away.
I have noticed something odd in the last few years. I get all kinds of different messages from different people. Yesterday a former student bumped into me and said how easy going I am. Other people find me difficult. One person I love told me I am overwhelming , though for me I feel so happy when I am with them that I have a lot of energy. Its confusing still.
8:22 "If someone isn't choosing you, you should not be choosing them." Agree, take back your thoughts feelings, intentions, hopes, energy and use them elsewhere. Self love , new skills, travel.
Where does is come from that we humans have something as a soul?
What is the soul, a soul?
Can we proof that there is something like a soul?
I don't believe in soulmates in any sort of way.
I am more of the connection with values, how someone's view of life is, how you deal with life for example.